“The soul is the truth of who we are.” – Marianne Williamson
If we believe that our souls are the truth of who we are, it’s not surprising that so many people are having a hard time.
Everything about our lives and society takes us away from our truths and the deepest parts of ourselves – our souls.
In a previous post, I explained how Soul hunger was a silent epidemic in the 21st century. Our souls are hungry and need to be fed in order to flourish and thrive.
Many of us are feeling the inner urge to shed outdated ideas about what it means to be a successful person and what we need in order to be happy.
It is an exciting time of transformation in the consciousness of many. It’s also a challenging time when many people are experiencing the dark night of the soul and the confusion that goes along with a time of transition and growth.
We are transforming into a way of being that aligns with our souls and the realization that we are spiritual beings having a human experience.
We’re beginning to understand that transformation and awakening are not only normal but a necessary process in the evolution of our soul.
In the book, When The Soul Awakens: The Path to Spiritual Evolution and a New World Era, Nancy Seifer and Martin Vieweg explain that,
“Awakening occurs- in one incarnation or another- when the individual soul becomes satiated with material living and feels compelled, by a deep inner urge, to discover the truth that lies behind the outer world of appearances” (p. 5).
Without a roadmap, however, many find ourselves feeling lost and confused navigating the inner terrain of the soul.
Some of my clients describe it as feeling like they’re being pulled between who they should be and who they are meant to be.
Others say that they feel like they’ve lost themselves in their roles to the point that they don’t know who they are anymore.
It’s not uncommon to hear people talk about this sense of knowing that things need to change but are confused because they have no idea what specifically isn’t working or how to go about it.
For many, it’s a shift away from focusing the majority of our attention and energy on fulfilling our many roles that meet the needs of other people, and moving towards growth, self-love, spirituality, greater fulfillment and living in alignment with our authentic selves.
This shift that we’re talking about and experiencing is a call from the soul. When we listen to this call, we move in the direction of thriving. When we don’t listen, our health, both physical and emotional, will suffer.
The soul is relentless and will go to extreme lengths to get our attention.
As James Hollis, a Jungian analyst said,
“If there is such a thing as a soul, then it is the soul that ultimately tips the balance toward change, towards a more authentic stance in the world.”
Here are 10 signs your soul is speaking to you:
- You are beginning to realize that all the material things and ways that you are trying to fill yourself up aren’t satisfying you. You feel like something may be missing in your life.
- You have a deep desire to make a difference and be of service to something greater than yourself.
- You have a feeling that something needs to be expressed through you. It’s an inner urge that stems from deep within you. This may feel like you’re seeking something, but you don’t know what that something is.
- You realize that while your roles are important, you have a desire to not be defined by them. You may be asking, “who am I” and “what is my purpose?”
- You long for meaningful relationships that feel authentic and where you can share your emerging sense of self with like-minded people.
- You have a sense that some things need to change and fall away in order for your authentic self to emerge. It may be relationships, the work that you are doing, limiting beliefs or how you fill your time.
- You are open to and curious about deepening your connection to something greater than yourself. You begin to realize that there are spiritual laws at work even if you don’t know exactly how to tap into them.
- You notice that your values are shifting and new ones want to emerge. You have a sense that this shift will result in a new way of being and a re-arranging of your priorities.
- You may feel a sense of discomfort as you’re being drawn into the unknown without a clear idea about how this process is meant to unfold. Perhaps the idea of the dark night of the soul resonates with you.
- You have a desire to live in alignment with your authentic self even though you don’t have a picture of what that looks like.
Learning to understand the language of the soul and integrating its messages into our lives is challenging for many of us. Here are 5 Tips to Help You Connect With Your Soul.
Adding to this challenge is the awareness that understanding the awakening soul and what it needs is different than fixing a psychological problem.
There is nothing dysfunctional or abnormal that needs to be diagnosed or treated. Rather there is a process that needs to be nourished and understood in order for the soul to emerge and one’s life to be adjusted so as to live in alignment.
If there are signs your soul is speaking to you it’s important for you to know that awakening is normal and is the beginning of a beautiful, albeit uncertain journey.
One thing is certain and that is your soul is your connection to your authentic self.
Listening and making the necessary changes in your life, in spite of the fear that will inevitably surface, will lead you down a path towards a life of greater alignment, inner peace and fulfillment.
Leave a comment below if you’re getting signs your soul is speaking to you.
Thank you so much for this excellent article Bev! I have noticed all of this happening in myself and women around me. I’m thankful to have a teacher like you who is leading us on this beautiful path.
Donna, thank you for your thoughtful comment. It truly is a beautiful path, although I have to admit that when I started on this path it was quite confusing to me. I’m so grateful to have others like you to journey with!!
I feel I am on a journey to reconnect with my soul. However, I just have thus feeling that something is holding me back and I just can’t ‘let go’. I would really appreciate some advice on how to do this as I have no-one on this level to talk to about this. Thank you.
Hi Sue! That’s exciting that you’re on a journey to reconnect with your soul. You’re not alone in terms of feeling that something is holding you back as it can be challenging to “let go” as you say. I’d be delighted to support you. I’ll be in touch through a personal message. Thanks so much for leaving a comment!
Something is going on with me and it has a resemblance of all this beautiful information, what do I do
Hi there! In response to your question, What do I do? I’m working on my next blog which answers your question. I hope you’ll find it helpful!
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I’m not a woman and this article resignate with me 100%
All our lifes we were taught what’s wrong from right yet we always do the wrong in most case, that’s who me are I presume, just like any animal that defending itself, a controlled system that is corrupt, therefore corrupt we also, because we were born perfect.
This awakening feels so powerful I dont know how to handle it on my own, and no one around me seem to understand what’s going on.
Hello. Hamal: The awakening is awakened to who you are not. First, there would be confusion then layer by layer, the illusion came off as the old belief dissolved one by one. .And then you will see the “other people” around you is all you, perceived by the ego mind as separate from you. Everyone has a unique path to self-realization. Cheers to your unleaning.
Hi Hamal- thanks so much for sharing that this post resonates with you as well! Yes, awakening feels very powerful for some and can be difficult when people around you don’t seem to understand. You are definitely not alone!
This is like i am seeking something. Its been 3 years and i couldn’t find that. I don’t know anything about it but still i feels i am in a journey to finding inner world inside peace.. Hope one day i will able to find.
Samreen, thanks for sharing your insights with us! Yes, the journey to connect with inner peace is often challenging. In my experience, when we create the environment inside of us that invites healing and connection, the inner peace finds us. I hope some blogs on this site support you on this journey and that inner peace finds you.
After reading this, I can say that my soul is not taking to me at this time,because in lockdown, I usually spend time with me.
But it used to happen with me.
Thanku for this beautiful article.
It sounds like “lockdown” created an opportunity for you to connect with your soul. What a gift! Thank you for sharing that!
Hello Bev! Thank you so much for speaking out! it’s helped me already in 15 mins of reading & listening!! I don’t feel so weird like I want to hide under a rock or that I don’t belong here right now. My Soul is trying to speak to me, it becomes more & more clear each day but I still haven’t figured out what I’m supposed to be doing. It’s driving me crazy. I’m up all night writing ideas, what could it be! I have ADHD, It’s challenging for me to be still. I question myself when I’m being quiet… is this me being in my head going off what I really want or is this my true inner-self responding? I’ve been practicing mindfulness reading the Bible, devotional, being present & less judgement with myself & others. I’m in the middle of four large decisions in life…
I have an almost 3 year old, a furniture business & I’m expecting! It’s all very exciting but happened so fast. I’m moving homes & placing my business on hold for a year that way I don’t make a quick choice out of excitement to do something else. I Plan on going to the drawing board. My mom passed away in December. She was my go to for everything. Ever since she’s been gone, I’ve questioned every single decision. I’ve felt empty, not only because she’s gone, I’d rather be doing what I love (talking deeply about my visions & how we are as people) rather than talking to a friend about surface level stuff. I want to share my story but I’m afraid of feeling vurniable. I’m beginning to realize to let go of my past failures & fear & put my trust in God. I have a tough time trusting. Life is so short & non of this matters when we get to heaven. So why not be all of me?! It’s so much easier said than done. A work in progress!! I have to be ok with the unknown which is very very tough for me. I do like to be I’m control and bossy but a nice bossy! I have a novel to type out but thats it for now! I would love and appreciate some guidance or helpful ways to continue to move forward In a positive light! Thank you for taking the time to read my novel! <3 Courtleigh Hope
Hi Courtleigh! I’m SO glad to hear that the post has been helpful and normalized your experience for you. It’s such a powerful insight that you realize that your soul is trying to get your attention right now and that you are creating space for that in the midst of your very busy life. I can really resonate with a great deal of what you have shared. I’ll reach out via email with a more personal message in response to your request for guidance. Much love on your journey! Bev
Self awakening. A lot of confusion. But can’t understand what my soul actually want me to do. Various wish cannot be fulfilled in one life time.
Thank you, i have been on this same path for two years. Loving the process. Nice article and stay blessed. Thank you
Hi John, thanks for your comment. What a gift that you’re on the path and loving the process!
Morning 8am I was in a deep think today,and i literally felt my soul talking to me,i got shocked as if someone was calling me….and i googled for it …..i found your article , i loved it
Wow, what a beautiful sign you received. I’m so grateful to hear that you listened to your inner voice and it guided you to the message that you were meant to receive. Thank you for sharing that!!
Hello Mam… I’m a girl of 17years old who has facing this situation ..I just wanted to leave the place where I am at now ..myself eagerly waiting to move to a new place…the reason may be my importance and talent and hardwork has been stuffed worstly ..but my soul is just demanding that it’s high time u have to rise now…just move from here as soon as possible….like wise it is just giving me the thoughts every time…..what I have to do now?.. hope I get a reply from you as soon as possible…
Thank you for sharing the ways in which your soul is seeking expression through you. You asked a very meaningful question- “what I have to do now?” Our inner wisdom knows what is meant for us and I have a sense that this is true for you. What we often find, though is that following the inner call and messages has practical implications such as what you highlighted about moving to a new place. For this reason, listening to our inner guidance poses challenges. If you’re seeking more personal support, please feel free to send me an email. Much love for your journey!
Hello Prasuna.I saw your comment .Bev janisch gave you excellent reply.My condition and my situation also same.I moved to different places where our hard work and our talent recognise but everywhere same situation I faced.Thank you.
Hi Gopi- thank you for sharing!!!
Hi Bev, Thank you for this beautiful post. Everything you said resonates with me. It has been almost two years now, the soul keeps crying and wanting God. Everything else seems meaningless. I don’t want to do anything other than spiritual practices, but all the other mundane things do not leave any time. How do you suggest dealing with this? It seems that there is a deeper purpose of life, or somehow the direction of life needs to change but not sure how. Quitting the job does not seem to be a rational decision…. then how to nourish the soul? My life before this awakening was very peaceful and content….. but this process has taken away all the happiness. Even though the mind does understand that this is supposed to turn into a beautiful journey… but the yearning is only making it painful. How to hear the voice of the soul and connect to the inner self?
Hi Mai- Thank you so very much for sharing so beautifully with us. I hear how this process has left you in a place that is difficult to be. I’ve been there too as have many others in our community. You ask such an important question, “How to hear the voice of the soul and connect to the inner self?” Being able to discern this voice and follow with courage what you hear, will lead you to a place of deeper happiness and meaning. If you need support and guidance to connect with your inner voice, please reach out through my personal email: bev@bevjanisch.com. Much love to you, Bev
Hi Bev,
This really resonates with me I have this strange calling almost mystical sense and I have not been able to put my finger on it .
I don’t know what to do now though to tap into it
Hi Rosi! I’m glad to hear this post resonated with you. Yes, it is often difficult to tap into what this inner calling is all about. Please reach out if you’d like 1-1 support to guide you in your exploration. Love, Bev
Thankyou for taking the time to write such a beautiful artical it brings me inner peace. I would love to read more. 💕 💡
Hi Laura- thank you so very much for your heartfelt comment. Knowing that it brought you some inner peace, warms my heart! If you’d like to read more, perhaps my book would be an inspiring place to start. Here’s a link to learn more about it: https://www.bevjanisch.com/books/awakening-a-womans-soul/ Love, Bev
Wow how true, i am so happy inside to know that what you have written about the souls, I have always known something is not quit right, it does feel like everything just about you have talked about is what is going on with me
I have been told on a few occasions that i am here from a past life and that the man who follows me is indebted to me for saving his life in the past,i have seen him and can describe him so well but i get scared because i know there is more to this life and i do feel that someone close to me is doing me wrong and they are evil its like the dark side and its a bit scary,just had to share this as i do really want to tap more into my soul as i know there are so many beautiful things in this world to see and feel and after reading this i felt so connected to what you have said and it is amazing.
Hi Robyn- Thanks for sharing! I’m delighted to hear that this post resonated with you and that it has inspired you to continue to connect with your soul and your deepest truths. Love, Bev
I’m lost. I met a man about the same time this all started happening to me. We are connected. We both know this. But it’s not that easy. It’s painful and I don’t want these feelings anymore. I’m trying to listen to my soul, but the only thing coming through are thoughts of him. I’ve googled to try and figure out what is happening to me. And I found this. Ignorance was bliss. I want it back.
Hi Jennifer! I’m sorry to hear that you’re feeling lost! I know how hard that can be and I also know that feeling of wanting to go back to “sleep” and as you say “ignorance was bliss.” Having gone through that and come out the other side I know it’s hard AND it’s also the most liberating and freeing feeling in the world. I remember all too well the wish to “go back” and then that quiet, wise voice inside me gently reminding me that I can only go forward. I’m so glad I went forward. Much love to you! Bev
Great read! Staying in tune with urself, your soul, your authentic self is hard work as many women have many roles to fill. Once lost and not practiced daily its so hard to find your way back. I have always felt calm inside and in control of feelings, tho after many years of mothering and working paid employment its taken a while to reawaken my inner joys. What makes me thrive! Its a true enjoyment to be true to myself! Thanks so much for this article and the support your words provide!
Hi Sharon! Yes, it is SO very true that it often happens that women lose touch with themselves as we move through life fulfilling our many roles. I have certainly found that in my own life. I’m so humbled to hear that this post resonated with you and that it has provided support for your journey. Thank you!
I listen to my soul and it’s tired, so tired, all it wants to do is leave this world. I’ve looked and looked beyond the material plain that used to satisfy it – but there’s nothing else there. Seems to me that all to be experienced in this form is of the 5 senses and i’ve exhausted possibility, there is nothing new. How oh how do i set my soul free to carry on growing and be happy again ?
Hi Justin- thank you for sharing and for the powerful questions you asked! The thing that popped into my heart when I read your post is that you are at a turning point. Just when we’re feeling most lost- it is the beginning of finding ourselves in a new way. What I have found is that it is often our limited ego-based sense of self that is tired and needs to take up less space in our lives so as to honour the soul’s need for growth and expansion. When we’ve exhausted the possibility of our 5 senses is when we are being called to a deeper experience of presence in order to connect with meaning, growth and deeper happiness. Wayne Dyer explores this in his documentary “The Shift.” You could access the link to that on the resource page on my website. It is also helpful to have a guide and support during this time of transition. Much love to you! Bev
Madam,I want talk to my Mother’s soul who expired on 1st November 2020,she had a cardiac arrest suddenly unexpectedly,there are certain things I want to ask her,I am really depressed,please help.A humble request.I am from Mumbai,India.
Hi Hermant- I am so very sorry to hear about the sudden death of your Mom. It is so painful when someone dies and when it’s unexpected and we had things we might like to have said it is extremely painful. My heart really goes out to you! Although I have found my own way to connect with loved ones who have died, I am not the best person to provide guidance and support around this. I have, however, learned a lot from Suzanne Giesemann who has a lot of resources and books that are very helpful for many people. Here is a link to her website: https://www.suzannegiesemann.com. I’m sending you much love for your healing journey! Love, Bev
Yes ma’am, i read the ten things, and right now in my current state i’m 10 out of 10. I’ve always wondered why me, why don’t I have the ability to screw people over why cant I do the spiteful things my ex’s do? since my teenager years i knew i had a purpose. the way I’m allowed and present at times. when all who around me listen when i speak what i like to call the “truth”. Although i am a drug addict, I’ve never been much a person to cause harm or take from others too feed my addiction. a few years back i went through a divorce, and at that moment I felt like my soul left me. where did it go? my family and friends all said i became something that i wasn’t never before. for a lack of better words i was a very mean dick lol. but at the very moment folks would have considered me a lost cause a wonderful surprise came about. never the less my soul returned. my love for a greater power or as i like to call him/her God, has always been in my heart, i want to show this world love like he loves me. I’m on this journey, (heading unknown), to seek lost souls and teach them about compassion loyalty faith and karma. any suggestions thanks “real nigha talk Ray Pruitt” thanks for the info also.
Hi Christopher- You’re so welcome for the article. I’m so inspired to hear about the time in your life when you reconnected with your soul. It sounds like you have a deep inner knowing that you’re here for a “purpose” and that all you’ve been through has been in service of that. I’m also on this journey with you to an unknown destination. I do know that it will slowly reveal itself to me (and you) when the time is right and I’ll work on being present in order to be aware of it and receive the messages. You asked for a suggestion- cultivate your ability to be “present” whether that’s through meditation and mindfulness or something else. Much love to you! Bev