5 Tips To Help You Connect With Your Soul If You’re Feeling Disconnected.

2022-05-17T22:29:35-06:00May 14th, 2020|

How do I hear the voice of my soul?

It’s a question that we don’t commonly ask ourselves unless something feels off in our life. When we feel disconnected from our authentic selves and stuck in a way of being that doesn’t seem to serve us any longer.

This disconnect is often experienced as signs and/or symptoms that show up in our lives. In the post, The Call of Your Soul: 10 Signs Your Soul is Speaking to You, I explore ways that our soul attempts to get our attention.

For some, the signs are gradual and insidious and for others, they arise when something occurs in life that has us pause and rethink some of our core values and beliefs.

It’s not uncommon for people to enter a period of time often described as the dark night of the soul.

Ultimately these signs are a message from your soul that you are ready to embark on what for many of us is a new journey. A journey of awakening to uncover who you actually are before the world told you who you should be.

The challenge for many of us is that we have no idea how to go about our soul-searching journey. After all, there were no classes in soul-searching when I was in school.

We weren’t taught how to understand our inner worlds of thoughts, feelings, intuitive insights, connecting with an intelligent Universe, or how to listen to our souls.

And yet, to be deeply happy and fulfilled we need to be able to connect with that part of ourselves that represents our essential self. Our core essence includes a blueprint for our becoming. Much like an acorn will become an oak tree.

Over the past number of years, I have experimented with and played around with countless ways to create space for my shy soul to appear.

Here are a few suggestions that I hope are helpful:

View the symptoms in your life as messengers.

This is a mindset shift for many of us. In our fast-paced, fix-it approach to life, we primarily focus on the problem and relieving the symptom to get rid of the discomfort, rather than looking for a deeper cause and reason it arose in the first place.

There is a deeper meaning to what often feels like things that are out of our control. The soul is hungry for meaning and when things in the outer world manifest as health issues, relationship troubles, and a life that lacks meaning, this is often a signal from the soul.

One of the most common symptoms I hear comes in the form of a question that I wrote about in the post, What Does it Mean if You Feel Something is Missing in Life?

Pay attention to what expands your energy and what constricts it.

We all have a life force energy that flows through us. This source of energy is a sign from our soul that helps us navigate the forces in our life- one force is fear/constriction and it drives us to remain the same and in our comfort zone. The other force is love/expansion which urges us to move through discomfort in order to become whole and in alignment.

When something aligns with our core essence, we’ll have energy that naturally flows.

When something isn’t meant for us, our soul withdraws energy. This withdrawal of energy most often shows up in our relationships and our work. This is often a message that we are outgrowing our current situation and are meant to make some changes.

This energy withdrawal that may be mistaken for depression contains a great deal of wisdom about what is meant for us and what isn’t meant for us.

Establish regular practices that enable you to tune in and ground yourself.

The soul while resilient is very shy.

We need to create space in our lives in order to connect with our inner wisdom and guidance system. Practices like meditation, mindfulness, prayer, journaling, and contemplation create such a space. (I’ve pulled together a list of resources that you may find helpful). I created A Beginner’s Guide to Meditation for those who want to establish a simple meditation practice.

If we already have these practices, it’s really important that we’re honest with ourselves about how consistent we are.

For these practices to help us connect more deeply with ourselves they need to become a regular part of our life. Otherwise, they may just be another form of distraction or serve as spiritual entertainment.

Track synchronicities, coincidences, and signs from the Universe.

For many years now I have kept a journal to track signs I receive from the Universe. In this journal, I keep track of things that remind me that we live in a creative and intelligent Universe. When something curious happens as I’m going about my day, I take a few minutes before I go to sleep and make a quick note in my journal.

The soul often communicates through images, metaphors, dreams, intuitive hunches, and ideas that seem to pop into our minds out of nowhere. The more playful and fun we can be the more this channel of communication will be open to us.

Get curious and ask a lot of questions.

Earlier on in our path, it is really common for people to be impatient to get the answers so that we can get rid of what are often confusing and uncomfortable feelings.

I know I sought out guidance from energy healers, mediums, psychotherapists, past life readers, astrologers, numerologists, angel card readers, spiritual teachers, and the list goes on.

I was hoping to bypass the discomfort of not knowing and have someone give me the answers as to what my soul was asking of me.

Looking back, while I appreciated all of these experiences and people, I realized that the most helpful were those that empowered me to access my own inner wisdom rather than giving me the answers to my questions. Those people who were just a little further along the path understand the process of awakening.

For example, seek out a meditation teacher that teaches you how to meditate rather than just guides you in a nice experience. The angel reader teaches you how to look for your own signs. The spiritual teacher helps you expand your worldview without telling you what to believe. The psychotherapist who understands the awakening process and views depression and/or anxiety as a sign from the soul provides valuable insight. The medical doctor knows you can’t separate the body from the soul.

This journey to connecting with our souls becomes the work of our life. To heal, grow, and evolve by living a life that aligns with who we are meant to become. When we do, we begin to feel vital, connected, and like our lives matter.

If you feel called, please leave a comment below. Our community would love to hear from you!

(Original post-May 2015; Updated May 2020)

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About the Author:

As a Certified Life Coach and Meditation Teacher, Bev mentors awakening souls around the world who are seeking the courage to change and live with deeper meaning, purpose, and authentic happiness. Bev's meditation-focused and Enneagram-inspired work will help you discover yourself, and be energized by what's calling you forward. As a professionally trained Associate Integral Coach™, Certified Meditation and Mindfulness Teacher, Enneagram Practitioner, Masters prepared Nurse, and author of Awakening a Woman's Soul, Bev is your guide empowering you to enter into the right relationship with your soul.

21 Comments

  1. steven smith December 5, 2020 at 12:03 pm - Reply

    thank you,i am very lost a this time in my life.

    • Bev Janisch December 5, 2020 at 3:53 pm - Reply

      Steven- I’m sorry you’re feeling lost! You’re not alone as we all have times when we feel lost. Much love to you, Bev

  2. kerry Hambleton December 14, 2020 at 4:02 pm - Reply

    Hi I’m really struggling with my awakening. I feel I’ve totally separated from my soul so I can’t heal. I’m able to sense/see all the blocked energy balls inside of myself. They move around but I can’t seem to relax enough to let go. I don’t know how to stop noticing them. They are physically really painful just moving around my body. Any advice would be fantastic! Best wishes! The

    • Bev Janisch December 14, 2020 at 6:02 pm - Reply

      Hi Kerry, I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling with the “awakening” process. I know how difficult it can be. It sounds like you are very in tune with your body and sensing what is going on inside of you- which is great! It seems to me that the “blocked energy” holds the key to your healing. You had mentioned that you don’t know how to “stop noticing them,” when in fact learning how to be present with your experience more deeply may help you begin to unblock things. If you haven’t reached out to one already, perhaps an energy practitioner could help you with this. Much love- Bev

  3. Gurkirat Singh January 24, 2021 at 1:02 am - Reply

    It helps me aloooot

  4. Mya Chevis January 30, 2021 at 8:52 pm - Reply

    When I was young, I am now 14 years old, I could easily connect with my soul. But one day I guess I woke up, and i lost the power of being able to connect with my soul, that year, i developed really bad depression… I could easily connect with my soul then.. over time, my depression eventually went away, and thats when I found I was struggling to connect with how my soul truly is feeling, I have been struggling with that ever since my depression went away.. i guess all i can say is, I hope these steps help me find my soul again

    • Bev Janisch January 31, 2021 at 3:49 pm - Reply

      Hi Mya! Thank you so much for sharing with us here. Yes, what you described is what is experienced by many. Periods of times in our lives when we feel connected and other times we feel disconnected. I have noticed this in my own life as well. And really what we’re really being asked is to relax and open to what we are experiencing at the moment. Do you pray? When I say “pray” I really mean communicating with something bigger than yourself. Ask whatever “it” is for you to help you open yourself to connect with your soul. Ask this every morning before you get out of bed and every night before you go to sleep. Then once you’ve asked for help, let it go as best as you can and trust that things will shift inside of you. I trust that they will! Much love to you, Bev.

  5. Millie Evans February 2, 2021 at 10:56 am - Reply

    Hi Bev, I woke up this morning with a curiosity about spirituality. It isn’t something I have investigated in life as I have been associating it with religion. Since researching the subject this morning it’s become obvious that it is what I’ve been missing and need to put energy into, nothing has been as relatable to me as your explanation behind what expands and reduces our energy. My life has gone from being extremely high energy and big impact, to feeling crippled with paralysis and misery. My job involves me to deliver tasks which drain me of energy at the mere thought of doing anything. This page, as well as The Call of Your Soul, has given me so much clarity and I look forward to exploring what my soul is telling me. Thank you.

    • Bev Janisch February 2, 2021 at 2:20 pm - Reply

      Wow, Millie, I woke up this morning knowing my next blog is meant to be about why it’s deeply meaningful for me to be “spiritual and not religious.” I got goosebumps as I read your post because I’ve been reflecting a great deal about this lately. I love how you’ve identified that exploring spirituality is calling to you right now and that you’re curious. Your curiosity is going to lead you down a beautiful and expansive path and I’m very excited for you! I’m so thrilled that my reflections are helping you gain some clarity and inspiration for further exploration. Thank you so much for sharing that! Much love, Bev.

      • Jordan SpikA November 23, 2021 at 7:44 pm - Reply

        Greetings! I’m Jordan from Uganda. I’ve had trouble with connecting to my Soul and I know of the power within my Soul but recently in 2019 I faced depression, anxiety and plus as a result of drugs ( as said) and ever since then life has not been going good as I faced great hatred and felt unmotivated and the only thing I had left was music. What should I do to keep with a positive vibe and keep in my Soul all the time, aware it’s my Soul guiding me not the matrix. How can I attract my heart’s desires. Thanx!

        • Bev Janisch November 24, 2021 at 6:14 pm - Reply

          Hi Jordan,
          Thanks for sharing with us here! It sounds like you’ve gone through a really challenging and painful time with your anxiety, depression and drug use. You’re not alone! What I hear in you now is that this painful time has created a readiness to connect more deeply with the urge arising from your soul to heal and grow.

          As I read your heart-felt sharing, the wisdom from Lao Tzu came to mind, “Simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures.” Of these three my sense is that you’ll attract your “heart’s desires” but starting with SELF- compassion. I explain HOW to practice self-compassion in this blog which includes some resources that may be helpful. We’re all sending you love! Bev

  6. malcolm stanton February 12, 2021 at 5:58 am - Reply

    Hi Beverly I am looking into connecting with my soul as I believe I am here to awaken my spiritual destiny and a truly positive energy help s with showing others that through connection we can all be and live a positive existence. Could you offer myself any guidance or help please. Malcolm

    • Bev Janisch February 12, 2021 at 2:51 pm - Reply

      Hi Malcolm – Thanks for your comment and I do agree with you that we are all ultimately here to awaken our spiritual destiny ( I love how you worded that). I’d be delighted to offer guidance and help. Please refer to the Spiritual Mentoring page on my website to see if that might resonate with you. If so, please email me (bev@bevjanisch.com) and we can go from there. Much love, Bev

      • jamie April 14, 2021 at 12:23 am - Reply

        i’m replying to this because i don’t know where else to get answers. I don’t understand when people say “my soul”. Like saying “my soul is giving me signs” or something like that. I thought that i AM the soul. If not then what am I. I have been growing up with my whole family being atheists but i really feel i am something more. but i am struggling with believing in spirituality just because someone told me. I always see signs in numbers and had 1 thing happen that i believe couldn’t have been a coincedence it was pretty crazy. i feel like i need to find answers within myself but at the same time i need help because i don’t know what i am. sorry if this is hard to understand and i don’t know if anyone is going to even see this lol

        • Bev Janisch April 14, 2021 at 9:27 pm - Reply

          Hi Jamie,
          Thank you for sharing such a deep reflection with us! You have asked some really powerful questions and it seems that in some ways you’re answering some of them for yourself. I have asked very similar questions about whether I “have” a soul or whether I “am” a soul. And for me, I’ve come to believe (at least in this moment) is that I am both.

          I’ve also found it helpful to realize that I have both a personality (which is my ego-sense of self) AND a soul which is my higher self’s pure potential. The intention is to have your higher self (soul) flow through your personality and out into the world. Realizing that we are more than our personality/ego is the beginning of awakening to our higher self. This is where spirituality comes in.

          I love how you said you’re struggling with spirituality “because someone told me”. That is the whole point about spirituality – to take what we hear, learn etc. and discern whether it resonates deep inside of us. Does it feel true? No one else can tell you that. It also sounds like you’ve had experiences that are showing you that perhaps you have different beliefs than your family who you said were atheists.

          You also make such an important point about the spiritual path and the need to balance looking outside ourselves for ideas about spirituality/soul etc. and also looking inside ourselves to stay connected with our inner worlds.

          Keep asking the great questions and you will live your way into the answers. Much love, Bev

  7. Anika Zilke March 27, 2021 at 5:11 am - Reply

    Hi Bev. I feel and at times have felt like being in a dream state. It’s called depersonalisation. It’s really frightening and apparently it’s when we have some sort of trauma as a child our mind fragments and splits off.
    I keep seeing signs symbols and guidance to become a healer, shaman even etc. But really struggling with this feeling of depersonalisation and going crazy for believing in all this energy stuff. It’s like my ego wants to grip onto reality. What can you suggest apart from grounding etc.

    • Bev Janisch March 31, 2021 at 5:47 pm - Reply

      Hi Anika,
      Thank you for sharing what you’re experiencing with us! I’m not familiar with “depersonalization” so can’t really comment on that. It does however make sense that when people have experienced trauma as a child that they need to seek professional help to process the experience and heal the body, mind and soul.

      I wonder if the signs and symbols you’re getting about becoming a healer are messages arising from your deeper wisdom (soul) that you’re meant to embark on your own healing journey. People that are called to healing work, are first called to their own healing.

      In terms of understanding energy in the process of awakening, I just finished reading, When Spirit Leaps: Navigating the Process of Spiritual Awakening by Bonnie Greenwell, Ph.D. There’s a wealth of information in the book that may be helpful for you! Much love to you, Bev.

  8. Kirsty November 7, 2021 at 11:21 pm - Reply

    Hi Bev
    Your article is so good and I feel very privileged to have read the incredible comments from other readers
    I am just starting out on the journey of realisation and awakening, and it is a long time coming,
    I now realise how the soul can speak to us in symbols, dreams and images /signs, and also that spirit guides are separate from this and also try and guide us down the right path and can show us things (if we are becoming awake I am guessing)
    Please forgive me for the long comment, but the most painful thing is that I have kept going down the wrong path for 7 years,
    I was and still am under coercive control through my pregnancy 7 years ago (sadly I had quite a few miscarriages not with this partner, before my beautiful little girl happened )
    For years the only way I was able to see more of my little girl by seeing him more but he still has her half of the time which has made me so sad (the legal system made things worse rather than better)
    I am starting to realise after being so unwell through sadness and control that I have to listen to my soul and try and get well for her, I don’t know what else to do, I have also put a vision board and bought some crystals,
    Please can you guide me how to strive better to help my soul for the ultimate good to protect my little girl , I’ll read more of your articles too, thank you so much

    • Bev Janisch November 11, 2021 at 9:46 pm - Reply

      Hi Kirsty,
      Thanks so much for your kind feedback! I’m SO glad you’ve found the comments from other readers helpful. I know how inspiring it is to hear from others.

      I love how you’re beginning to take your personal power back and get well for yourself which will have a huge impact on your daughter and her journey through life. The most important first step is to take responsibility for our own healing and life. I know that was a big one for me and sometimes still creeps into my thinking when I’m not mindful. It’s super easy to say “when this person changes, or this situation improves then I’ll feel better.”

      Vision boards and crystals are great, but the changes need to come from inside us. When we’re starting on this awakening journey it’s often helpful to find a counselor who can help us evolve psychologicalyl, and heal then integrate past experiences. Much love to you and your daughter, Bev.

  9. Gunjan February 11, 2022 at 5:01 am - Reply

    Hi Bev….wanted to ask u one question….u know we started from nothingness n will go in nothingness and this all worldly drama is a play ….does this knowledge not bring a sense of unattachment in u for all the worldly activities ….what keeps u moving n motivated for all blogs 🙏🏻

    • Bev Janisch February 13, 2022 at 12:00 pm - Reply

      Thank you for the wonderful question! For me, worldly drama creates an opportunity for personal and spiritual growth. It helps me to grow and evolve. Part of that growth is the practice of creating without attachment to the outcome. I’m motivated by a creative force to write the blogs and then practice letting go. It’s not easy, but it has become a powerful practice. Love, Bev

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