Feeling like something is missing in your life is a powerful message from an intelligent Universe that something needs to change.
It’s a sign that something is out of alignment with your authentic self.
It’s an invitation to embark on an inner journey in order to understand yourself better and shed the limiting beliefs that are holding you back from becoming your best self.
It’s no coincidence that this experience of feeling like something is missing happens in our lives at a time that we know we have a lot to be grateful for.
It becomes an inner tug of war between the part of us that tells ourselves we should just be grateful and the part of ourselves that tells us there must be “more.”
We are taught and conditioned to believe that certain things will make us happy. When that doesn’t happen, we are at a loss for what actually does make us happy.
And if feeling lost and confused isn’t enough we also feel lonely because we find that most people don’t understand what we’re experiencing. We get the message- “You have so much and are so fortunate what could possibly be missing in your life?”
I get it because I have been there and experienced these same feelings that were confusing and unsettling. I experienced a dark night of the soul and was really suffering even though I had SO much to feel grateful for.
What are these feelings and inner knowing that something is missing in your life trying to tell you?
I began to see a pattern in the people I worked with and it usually boiled down to one of three things:
You may be disconnected from your authentic self.
In this scenario, we have been so busy focusing on other people that we don’t know who we are or what makes us happy. We may notice that we know more about what brings other people happiness and joy and less about what brings us fulfillment and joy.
This is when YOU are actually missing.
You have lost sight of your values, your gifts and what makes your heart sing. The authentic you is buried beneath a whole lot of layers and beliefs. You’re busy being a “good” person and doing what you should do and in the process have lost touch with yourself.
You may be longing for deeper and more meaningful relationships.
Many people long for deep and fulfilling relationships where we can share our most intimate thoughts and feelings.
We want and need a deep connection with people and a desire to share and discover our authentic self with others in a safe and nourishing way.
Just as we are meant to grow and evolve, our relationships are also meant to grow and evolve. What meets our needs in one chapter of our life doesn’t meet our needs in the next.
Shifting our way of being into more soulful relationships, can be very challenging. But if the soul is needing a deeper connection and it’s not available to us, we are going to feel like something is missing in our lives.
Your soul may be longing for deeper meaning and purpose.
Many people are struggling with this one as humanity is being called to awaken to our spiritual truths.
Feeling like something is missing is a sign that you have a spiritual yearning that you may not be aware of.
The Universe, divine, intelligence, God, higher power or whatever you call “it” is setting off an alarm which may be saying: “You are a spiritual being having a human experience.” When we don’t know how to live as spiritual beings it is not surprising that it feels like something is missing.
Our society values material success, achievement, status, and identification with our roles. When we achieve these things and/or intuitively know these things won’t bring us the happiness we are seeking, we are confused with how to proceed.
Spirituality generally provides direction and a connection to what brings deeper meaning and purpose to our lives. It guides us to live our lives based on values of compassion, forgiveness, gratitude, and the interconnectedness of all beings.
This intelligent life force is continually seeking expression through us. When we’re connected with this energy our lives take on a richness. When we don’t understand how spiritual laws work and lack a deeper connection to this energy, we feel like something is missing.
Life feels flat, dull and superficial. Like you’ve lost your inner spark!
In my own life, when I turned towards the feeling that something was missing and opened myself up to hear the answers, I learned that there were things missing in all three areas.
As a Nurse, wife, mother, and friend I often put others’ needs first and, in that process, I lost my sense of self.
I also had a shy soul and although I longed for deep, connected relationships I was afraid to feel vulnerable.
And lastly and probably most significant was the realization that I had no idea what it meant to be a spiritual being. I was living in a spiritual desert and my soul was thirsty for the nourishment and connection to spirit.
What do you do if you feel like something is missing?
- Accept it and know that you can feel grateful and like something is missing at the same time.
- Get still and listen for the wisdom in the missing. Give it a voice. What is it trying to tell you? Your natural tendency might be to get busier, but you won’t find what’s missing by doing more of the same.
- Seek help or support from someone who can guide you in how to look inside yourself for your own answers. Someone who won’t give you the answers but is further ahead in the awakening journey and can help you create meaning around what you are experiencing.
- Open yourself up to what it means to be “spiritual being.” What brings meaning and purpose to your life? How do you communicate with an intelligent Universe? What are your unique gifts and values and how are you using them in your life?
- Develop daily habits that nourish your shy soul. That may be meditation, mindfulness, journaling, movement meditations, prayer, walks in nature or anything that creates space for answers to flow into your life.
And lastly, know that you are on the verge of evolving into a more authentic and peaceful version of yourself.
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