Helpful Tips If You Feel Something Is Missing In Your Life.

2022-07-23T06:24:39-06:00February 1st, 2021|

If you feel like something is missing in your life, you’re not alone!

Since publishing the blog, What Does It Mean If You Feel Something Is Missing In Your Life, I’ve received emails and comments from people around the world, who have a sense that something is missing. If you haven’t read the blog, perhaps that’s a good place to start.

I wrote the blog because it was something I struggled with a number of years ago. The nagging feeling of soul hunger became the catalyst for me to go on a soul-searching journey to understand myself.

It was a very confusing time in my life because I had SO much to be grateful for.  And yet, there was still something missing.

The feeling that something is missing is a symptom arising from our true self or soul.

I’ve had many people ask me to share what the next steps are if you feel something is missing. While I share 3 basic tips, the journey of coming home to yourself is anything but linear. It ultimately involves a process of healing yourself, knowing your true self, and then growing into the best version of yourself possible.

Develop a healthy relationship with yourself.

This is perhaps the hardest step because it means you are taking radical responsibility for your own life. You’re shifting your awareness and energy onto yourself and your own life.  You’re acknowledging that you need to get to know your innermost self, and that’s never comfortable.

It’s also the most challenging step because no one can do the work for you.

It’s not like going to a chiropractor for a quick adjustment or a massage therapist to work out some muscular tension. It’s a deep journey that only you can take.

It starts with shifting your attention inward for a while – letting go of the need to control the outer circumstances of your life.

It doesn’t mean that the outer things in your life won’t need to change, it just means you’re putting that aside for a while so that you can learn how to have a better relationship with yourself.

It means you need to learn how to deal with your stress from the inside out; deal with your emotions in healthy ways; release toxic emotions like resentment; practice self-love and self-compassion, develop healthy boundaries; release limiting conditioned beliefs from the past, embrace your masculine/feminine energy, and begin to feel grounded, peaceful and balanced on the inside.

Developing a healthy relationship with yourself goes a long way toward addressing the feeling that something is missing.

It often requires the help of others who can serve as guides and mentors to help you process and integrate your past, be more present in your current life and develop a vision for your future best self.

Many of us on the path of personal and spiritual development have been drawn to meditation practices because they give us the tools to turn inward and begin to develop a healthier relationship with ourselves.

If you haven’t already, I would highly recommend that you begin a simple meditation practice.

In the post, With So Many Choices, What Is The Best Type Of Meditation For Me? I share some tips about where to begin and why it’s important if you feel something is missing in your life. It also includes a 10-minute recording of a core practice.

If you already have a meditation practice and have learned how to calm your body and mind that’s amazing! It’s a tool and practice that will serve you for the rest of your life.

Meditation, while being a vital tool for the seekers’ toolkit, does have its limitations.

What I and others have found is that after we’ve settled our nervous systems, developed skills in working with our minds, and emotions, and healed our inner child experiences, we reach a plateau in our growth.

Just as we thought we’d finally arrived, the universe decided to shake things up again by giving us the inner knowing that we’re ready for the next stage of our development.

A stage that involves envisioning and stepping into the next version of yourself.

Envision and evolve into the future version of yourself.

While meditation and mindfulness enable us to develop a better relationship with ourselves, it doesn’t give us the full picture and a path or way forward in becoming our best selves.

It provides a solid foundation from which to build a house, but it isn’t the house itself.

How do you build a house that represents your future self?

As I was beginning to wonder about this, I was introduced to the Enneagram of personality.

The Enneagram, a spiritually based personality typing system,  enables us to see what our meditation practices can’t. A deeper understanding of what is required to embody our best selves where we are fully thriving in all aspects of our lives.

The Enneagram has been described as an awareness accelerator. It helps us determine our own unique path for growth that enables us to envision a future version of ourselves.

As we get closer to our core essence, the feeling that something is missing is replaced with a state of deep inner peace and alignment.

This alignment between our inner world and how it’s expressed in the outer world is further facilitated by learning how to go with the flow of life in order to be open to receiving messages about our path.

Harness the power of the universe to guide your next steps.

Another tool for your toolkit would be a very simple practice that invites the Universe/Divine/God/Life force or whatever you call “it” to assist you and show you your next step.

You’re not meant to have it all figured out before you get started. You only need to open yourself up to the next step.

To assist with this, you ask for signs from the universe. What you’ll find is that your meditation practice creates a fertile environment within yourself to receive the signs. You then take the next step.

How do you harness the power of the universe?

This is where a gratitude or prayer practice is helpful.

As a person who identifies with being spiritual but not religious, I didn’t learn how to pray. And in many ways, I’m grateful for that as I have developed a way to connect with that life force energy that feels right for me.

Simple prayers to support your journey might be:

Please show me what my next step might be.

Please give me a sign.

Please help me to surrender to the uncertainty.

Please give me the strength to take the next step.

Please bring me a guide or the support that I need.

The truth is that the process of transformation takes time and a large dose of humility. It requires a commitment to your soul to do the “work” and to your spiritual practices.

It asks that we develop patience,  self-compassion, and trust that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

It involves a process of stripping away who you are not, in order to see more clearly who you actually are.

And as you learn to connect more deeply with yourself, others, and the mysteries of life, that sense that something is missing slowly diminishes. And then one day you wake up and realize that you’ve come home to yourself and you don’t feel like anything is missing.

If you feel called, please leave a comment below. Our community would love to hear from you! If you’re looking for 1-1 guidance, I offer a 10-hour coaching package that you can learn more about HERE.

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About the Author:

As a former nurse turned certified meditation teacher, author and spiritually-inspired life coach, Bev guides people around the world who feel called to become more resilient and flourish fully in their lives. Bev’s on a mission to empower people with the wisdom, self-awareness and spiritual practices to make the shift from feeling stressed, disconnected and like something is missing in their lives, to thriving from the inside out with the courage to follow a path that’s true to their soul.

6 Comments

  1. Sara Clark December 14, 2021 at 9:47 pm - Reply

    Hi Bev, I feel like I’ve been at a point where I felt something was missing for a while now. Certain life circumstances have come up where I’m trying to figure this out but also in need of finding a job to support myself. I’m continually hurting my job hunt progress because I don’t know what it is I want that will help me feel like I’m not missing something. Is this work that can be done while also still chugging along with a 9 to 5?

    • Bev Janisch December 15, 2021 at 6:03 pm - Reply

      Hi Sara,
      Thanks so much for the great question about whether you can do the work and still chug along with your 9 to 5. It’s such a beautiful example of how our day to day life gives us the opportunity to grow personally and spiritually. In terms of the job hunt it sounds like you have an inner knowing that you need to support yourself. What I’ve found over the years is that I’ve been in a lot of jobs that felt like something was missing and yet without having the experience from the job I wouldn’t have learned what I do want. It’s like we have to discern both what we don’t want and also what we do want. We also can’t figure out what’s “missing” until we’re in the job and/or relationship. This then provides an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. So, yes absolutely you can do the work while you’re doing your 9 to 5 job. And in fact you likely need the 9 to 5 to both support yourself AND to show you were the work needs to be. Hope that makes sense. I’m sending you energy to pursue your job hunt without the need to have it all figured out. Love, Bev.

  2. Debra Fisher October 31, 2021 at 10:20 pm - Reply

    Hi. The fact that I found your site was a clear first sign for me. It made me very emotional with mixed emotions from sad for my soul abs happy and excited to reach to my soul. I thought it was a menopause thing, that I am feeling so unsure and questioning my point of being here. I am going to try some meditation and quiet time to be kinder to my soul. Thank you.

    • Bev Janisch November 1, 2021 at 3:53 pm - Reply

      Hi Debra,
      I’m so glad that this post found you! Feeling unsure and questioning the point of being here is a significant sign that you’re shifting and being invited to “awaken” to your deeper self. That’s great that you’re going to try an inner practice, like meditation and create space for quiet time so you can connect with what wants to arise. Thank you for sharing here! Love, Bev

  3. Sabrina March 16, 2021 at 11:23 am - Reply

    Hi Bev,
    Beautiful articles. Would you also share some next steps in how overcome / “solve” the problem with missing meaningful relationship. I’ve grown so much over the last year and thereby outgrown all my friendships – so much that I feel mostly misunderstood or “not seen” by them anymore. (Additionally many of them are not willing to grow their selves…)

    I think that is by far the hardest thing to solve in the self awareness process because it involves others.

    How do you / your clients cope with the “not to be seen / not to be understood by their (entire) friend circle symptoms. For me, I miss it so much that no one “just” understands and see me… thank you 🙏🏼

    • Bev Janisch March 16, 2021 at 5:50 pm - Reply

      Hi Sabrina,
      Thank you so much for your very powerful and meaningful reflection. You have described what happens for many people who are growing and evolving and getting a sense that they are outgrowing their friendships. You are definitely not alone in feeling this as I hear from people around the world about how challenging this is. There is that period of time when we feel we’ve outgrown certain relationships and yet haven’t formed new ones where we DO feel seen, understood and like we have travel companions that nourish our souls.

      It is often a lonely time and there is a sense of loss and grief that goes along with lovingly letting some people go in order to create space for friendships that have yet to emerge.

      The way I have coped and helped my clients to cope is by practicing self-compassion and reminding myself that new friendships are on the horizon. I also let the “Universe” know that I am ready for new people to come into my life and then let go and trust that it will happen. I also want you to know that I see you, and understand how difficult this is. You are not alone and your courage to grow is an inspiration to many!!!! Much love, Bev

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